I wonder that as well.
You wonder if you're twelve?
How is it demeaning? Suppose you are in a library and you are reading or concentrating on something and there is someone near you singing loudly, how is demeaning to them to ask them to please not disturb you?
How is it demeaning to come into someone's house (the analogy of a library does not stand; hopefully you don't need me to explain why) and attempt to coerce the behavior of a group of people who were getting along fine until you came along and insisted they change their behavior to suit you?
I agree. I'm generally against coercion. I generally don't coerce the behavior of others.
I see no harm in asking someone to be polite. I don't tell people to be polite. I don't think anything is wrong with my approach. I have stated on this forum that on other forums I am not treated by others rudely or unkind. So I don't think it is my approach. I have stopped posting new posts to this forum and I am for now only responding to posts directed at me.
There is no harm in asking. There is a good deal of latent hostility in making a thread under the premise that other adults need your benevolent wisdom, when clearly you have no interest in listening to anything you find remotely disagreeable. Whether you intend it or not, your veiled pot shot at the intelligence of this community is pretty damn rude. No one needs your "help" in how to conduct civil discourse. The fact that you aren't getting the respect and treatment you feel entitled to speaks to other issues.
That's good. I agree with that. Unfortunately there are people who assume that they are always in the right. I do not assume that I am always right. I often try to see things from another person's point of view but perhaps most people don't. I think the ad hominem attacks on me began after I posted that I believe that the USA was justified in going to war against the Axis states during WWII. Although I may disagree with someone on that issue I would not initiate an ad hominem attack on them because they disagree with me. Some Ancap/Voluntaryists seem to think that there is a "party line" that a "true" Anarchist/Voluntaryist should subscribe to regarding certain issues. To this day there are people who claim that Rothbard was not an Ancap/Voluntaryist. Maybe it is they who are not. I believe that just because one holds the minority view about something doesn't mean one is wrong. The majority has been known to be wrong.